![Inner and Outer Love](/sites/www.artofliving.org/files/styles/original_image/public/unity2/blog_image/Inner_outerLove_%20%283%29.jpg?itok=uE1B8qzh)
From a question basket, the following was read aloud:
God loves us unconditionally. Knowing this, why do I expect love from others, even my own family members?
Here’s what Gurudev shared:
That is my question to you. Wake up, wake up! Don’t think your family members and friends don’t love you. They have love for you.
If something happens to you tomorrow, they will all cry! No doubt. They have love for you, but their expression of emotions will be different from yours.
Don’t try to judge someone else’s feelings for you. If you think they don’t have feelings, you’re mistaken.
Love gets veiled
They do have feelings, but sometimes, they are covered up by their minds, tensions, and problems. When problems or ignorance arise, they only cover or veil the feelings
Feelings don’t die out. They remain somewhere deep inside.
So if their expression of love towards you isn’t very obvious, just know they’re having their own little difficulty. Some shield or stress covers their feelings.
This understanding will bring maturity to you.
Reprogramming yourself
When you think others don't love you, you will stop loving them. This is a spontaneous reaction that happens to you.
This is something you need to work on. Again and again, educate yourself because you’re so deeply ingrained in some patterns that you only respond in kind to what others say.
If someone gives you a flower, then you give back the flower. If someone gives you a thorn, you’re not programmed to give them a rose. Your programming is “tit for tat.”
“If they love me, then I love them. If they don’t love me, then I won’t love them.” You have to come out of this programming.
Then you’ll see the whole world is full of positivity. It’s full of love.
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