9 Relationship Tips
for Youngsters

A relationship is a brittle bond that can break off easily when not nurtured from time to time. There is no value to human life without connections, and which is why we are the most social beings in the world. 

Starting from teenager to the age of about 40 years old, most of us face relationship crises at personal and professional levels. Lack of empathy, ego clash, expectations and judgemental attitude takes us to the brim of relationship issues. It also becomes difficult to deal with such problems as sometimes we fail to understand the importance of relationships and people in our lives and take them for granted. It’s quite later in life that we understand the significance of relationships .

So, give a pause to your blame games  and use the following tips by Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar to handle relationships.

What are some Relationship Problems and How to Deal with Them?

1. Being Judgemental

Often we tend to judge people without completely understanding them. Sadly, many of us often think on the inside, “Oh look, she is divorced, she must be devoid of love!” or “His financial condition is bad, I must be careful, else he will ask me for money again!” or “She has a child, she must not be very good at her job!” We tend to judge people looking at their situation without paying heed to their efforts to bring a change in their lives. 

Solution: Be the change you want in others

When you stop judging people, you will soon find some connection with them. You will try to influence them positively instead of pulling them down. You will be more accepting and less judgemental.

2. Having Expectations

“My husband should compulsorily take me out on weekends” or “My wife should do all the chores and then focus on her career” are some of the expectations that people have and preach about. Always demanding, poses a negative consequence and ultimately ruins the relationship.

Solution: Give space

Everything happens at its own time. Be patient. You cannot change a person as per your expectations, but you can change them through your actions. When you become more giving in a relationship, the same comes back to you without demanding. You will be surprised at what you get when you give your best without focusing on the results.

3. Saying What you Feel

When you are young, you often say what you feel without any filter. Believe it or not, words have the deepest impact on people. You may not remember how they looked, but what they said when they were with you would always leave an impression.

Solution: Be kind

A relationship is not a competition where you have to score against the other person. It is a bond that could grow only with compromises and understanding. So choose your words carefully. Direct them to influence someone rather than criticize them. Be understanding and sympathetic so that people like to be around you.

4. Being Selfish

Always thinking about what you want and how you feel could lead to a relationship problem. Our ego keeps pestering us saying, “Oh, it’s me who’s putting my all into the relationship!” or “I am not getting the kind of support I require from my parents!”. Such thoughts have the power to sink a relationship.

Solution: Let things flow naturally

As already mentioned, you cannot make people do what you wish or how you wish in a relationship. Let things take their course in their own sweet time. Do not demand respect; instead, be there as a supportive figure. When you don’t expect anything in return, little bouts of kindness thrill you.

5. Feeling/Making the other Feel Less

Relationship inequality always empowers one person over another. When you always bow down in a relationship, there is a chance that you will be taken for granted and vice versa.

Solution: Be respectful but hold your ground

In a relationship, you must hold your ground and aim at equality. Where both people respect and submit to each other, it becomes not only a happy relationship but also a great example for others to follow.

6. Crushing the Ego

Ego and emotion are the two very crucial aspects of our lives and hence very dear to us. Imagine you wish to pursue fashion design, but your close friends put you down for your choice. Or you love playing tennis but your parents and partner taunt you saying you are not going to get anywhere by simply playing a couple of games daily.

Solution: Protect each other’s interests with genuine care

It does not matter how but always aim at protecting the ego and emotion of people in a relationship. Learn to be encouraging and give them hope to pursue their passion. Everyone eventually will get their life lessons and we are no one to tell them to stop doing something they like.

7. Craving too much and Losing Patience

In this fast-paced world, we have become devoid of real emotions. We all want everything at once and all with our conditions.  The feelings such as trust, love and care are all natural and cannot be demanded. . Craving for love is conditional and is not true love.  

Solution: Be centered

When you stay centered, you are at peace with yourself. You are not always demanding and reflect positivity in any situation. You try to give as much as you can and understand the meaning of unconditional true love. Without distractions, you no longer crave for love and care. Meditation is an effective way to improve mindfulness.

8. Criticizing

It has become easier to express ourselves, i.e. we have become more open with our wants, needs and people, unlike earlier generations. However, we also do not refrain from criticizing others and playing blame games.

Solution: Be Tactful

Insulting someone to make them realize their mistakes is the biggest blunder. Slowly people drift away when they often feel misunderstood and hurt. You can kindly and tactfully make people aware of their mistakes and offer your suggestions.

9. Trying Too Hard

We often complain about trying too hard in a relationship without receiving the same reciprocation. It’s crucial to know that relationships cannot be imposed on people, as they develop naturally in their due course.

Solution: Be Natural

Instead of trying too hard, be natural. Do what comes naturally. Do your responsibilities but give yourself time too instead of always running after or cribbing about others. When you are giving the relationship its space, it will evolve.

FAQ on Relationship Problems